Enneagram Type Two relationship with Enneagram Type Two

Enneagram Type Two with Enneagram Type Two


Why the Attraction?

  • This is not a common pairing because both Twos seek their identity through If that is the case, who is going to receive? Not all Twos are alike even if their underlying motivations are the same. Sexual Twos with a strong Three wing can often look and behave Eightish or Threeish. Self-preservation Twos with a strong One wing can often look and behave Oneish or Fourish.
  • If this relationship does come about it’ll be because Twos instantly feel an emotional Both are looking for closeness and intimacy and sense they have found that in each other. They’re instantly attracted to each other’s warmth, kindness, generosity, affectionate nature and sensitivity to each other.
  • Twos are emotionally intense and will bond Both are naturally complimentary and give each other lots of attention, which fills both of them up. Since they both want to get close, they will start sharing personal info. about themselves quickly and develop a high degree of intimacy soon, which of course they both want. Twos like to be physically close to each other too. Both have excellent interpersonal and communication skills so find it easy to talk for hours.
  • Twos also admire each other’s desire to be of selfless service to If each Two will but allow themselves to be nurtured, helped and assisted they can create a very loving and deep emotional bonding.


Some Shared Positive Traits

  • Are naturally very relationship-oriented
  • Each give the other a deep sense of feeling genuinely loved and appreciated in the relationship
  • Are attentive and tuned in to each other’s needs
  • Are appreciative to have each other in their life
  • Enjoy being together and telling each other often how much they love and care about each other
  • Especially enjoy physical touch, closeness and intimacy when they’re together
  • Like to check-in with each other and talk at length on the phone when they’re not together
  • Have a deep understanding of each other since they think so much They can talk about ANYTHING
  • Are able to get very close to each other very quickly
  • Are caring, helpful, nurturing, supportive and generous
  • Are affectionate, romantic and sensitive to each other
  • Are positive, enthusiastic, active, energetic and cheerful
  • Share a deep sensitivity to how other people feel
  • Have learned to respect other’s need for independence
  • Have learned how important it is to let loved ones go when the time is right rather than clinging to them
  • Are insightful and intuitive; flexible and adaptable


Some Shared Negative Traits

  • Can both be manipulative, controlling, possessive, needy, jealous, insincerely flattering and prideful about their giving
  • Can be completely out of touch with their own needs
  • Have a difficult time asking for what they need directly
  • Can be overly concerned about their value and self-worth


  • Can be overly helpful, intrusive, even co-dependent and rather insistent on doing nice, loving things for each other
  • Can have difficulty receiving because they’re “givers”
  • Can feel unappreciated, unfulfilled and disconnected from their partner when they’re mad at each other
  • Can get angry if their needs go unmet for too long


Potential Problems

  • Could secretly compete with each other by keeping tabs on who is more loved, who is more popular, who gets more attention, who is asked for advice more, who is asked to more social events, who is flirted with more, who has more sexual advances made towards them,
  • Could focus on becoming more desirable to our partner by altering our self-presentation to win his or her
  • We could be too solicitous and lose our independence and sense of self in the
  • We may have boundary problems and get enmeshed with each other or, alternatively, become disgusted by each other’s hovering and push each other
  • There could be emotional upsets and hurt feelings if we feel that we’re not being loved or appreciated We might seek intimacy outside the relationship or use food as a compensation for emotional neglect.
  • One of us, could develop health problems due to overeating and the physically healthier of us would end up taking care of the unhealthy partner or leave the relationship
  • Our relationship could deteriorate into an unhealthy one, literally, in which we blame each other for intruding on one another’s boundaries and our psychosomatic illnesses hold us



For Twos

  • Don’t rush into a relationship too It takes time to get to know someone deeply and to develop trust. Ask lots of questions to get to know your partner better.
  • Learn to develop your own independent self outside of the Encourage your partner to do the same.
  • Not everyone expresses love the way you Look for different ways your partner might show love towards you.
  • Practice balance in giving and Allowing yourself to be loved is a path of growth towards loving yourself.
  • Notice when you give to get love and What is it you need to give to yourself in order to feel loved?