Enneagram Type Three’s Wing Descriptions

Are you more like a Three with a Two-wing or a Three with a Four-wing? Read below to
find out.

Type Three with a Two Wing (3w2)

Positive:
• Helpful, Friendly, Generous
• Tuned in to others, Charming
• Perky, Vivacious
• Gregarious – can seem Sevenish
• Socially adept, Encouraging
• Friendly, Generous, Warm
• Can be outwardly emotional
Negative:
• Manipulative, Artificial quality
• Flattering, Seductive, Suave

Type Three with a Two Wing: Threes with a Two wing (3w2s) tend to take on more of the
attributes of Twos than of Fours (the other wing), although both wings (2 and 4) can influence
their personality. 3w2s tend to be one of the most outgoing, self-confident (seemingly if not
actually), charming, gregarious and socially adept of all the wing type combinations. They often
seem like Sevens because they are vivacious, adventurous, friendly, full of energy and like to
engage with others. Unlike Sevens though, 3w2s aren’t trying to escape from fear and self-doubt
by being compulsively active. Nor are they nonconforming, outspoken and irreverent. Rather,
they are more interested in recognition for their good works and admirable achievements that
have a positive social perception. When healthy, 3w2s can be encouraging, motivating,
bighearted and generous with their time, attention and money. They are tuned in to people and
tend to be warmer and more openly sociable than 3w4s. They often have leadership qualities and
work hard not only to make a name for themselves but to be of service to others. Sometimes
their home life can suffer because they pour so much of their heart and soul into their work. Like
2w3s, 3w2s can be seductive and flirtatious. They want to be desirable and may feel as though
part of their value comes from being able to attract others.
Negatively, they can have a big ego and alter their self-presentation to be popular. They
want to be highly admired and even adored by people. They know how to turn on the charm and
get others to like them. 3w2s are very competitive, although not outwardly so since they are
aware of their reputation and how they are coming across to others. They can be boastful,
manipulative, possessive and flattering. At their worst, they can be opportunistic and deceptive
con-artists and psychopaths.
You may find that you can relate to the description of Type Three with a Four wing also
(see below). However, there is a fundamental energetic difference between these two
descriptions. See if you can discern which description sounds more like you, however slight that
difference might be.

Type Three with a Four Wing (3w4)

Positive:
• Career-oriented, introspective
• Serious (can seem Oneish)
• Hard working
• Value comes from the quality of their work
• More humanistic, imaginative
• Intellectual, sensitive, creative
• More self-analysis than 3w2s
Negative:
• Self-doubting, Self-conscious
• Arrogant, Pretentious, Moody

Type Three with a Four Wing: Threes with a Four wing (3w4s) tend to take on more of the
attributes of Fours than of Twos (the other wing), although both wings (4 and 2) can influence
their personality. 3w4s are usually more introspective, sensitive, self-aware and serious-minded
than 3w2s. They are still charming and charismatic with a winning personality like all Threes but
there is also a more subdued, self-questioning, contemplative side to their persona. They derive
a great deal of their self-esteem from their work, which 3w4s want to be an authentic expression
of who they are. They are competitive but it’s more about competing with themselves and living
up to their high ideals than about competing with other people. 3w4s often seem like Ones
because they can be quite task-focused, conscientious, idealistic and, at times, perfectionistic.
They also take great pride in their work and want to be known for their competence, integrity,
professionalism and meaningful self-expression. 3w4s seek to understand themselves more than
3w2s and are often drawn to inner work or artistic exploration as means of self-analysis and selfawareness.
Some intuitive 3w4s often switch careers and pursue more humanistic work, such as
mentoring, teaching or counseling, if they’ve had some kind of spiritual awakening experience or
life trauma that caused them to re-evaluate their priorities.
Negatively, 3w4s can have tremendous inner tension trying to reconcile their dual
personality. On the one hand, they have great ambition and drive like all Threes. They want to
shine and appear to have it all together. On the other hand, they can lapse into self-doubt and
self-questioning, so characteristic of Fours. At those times they can be very moody, private and
self-conscious. At times they can be haughty, pretentious, and arrogant (like unhealthy Threes)
and at other times they can be self-absorbed, self-contemptuous and depressive (like unhealthy
Fours). This person can therefore seem at odds with him or herself and is one reason why they
are often drawn to inner work mentioned earlier.
You may find that you can relate to the description of Type Three with a Two wing also
(see above). However, there is a fundamental energetic difference between these two
descriptions. See if you can discern which description sounds more like you, however slight that
difference might be.

 

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