In-Depth Description of Enneagram Type Nine

Common Descriptive Names: (1) The Peacemaker, (2) The Mediator, (3) The Peacekeeper
Unconscious Fear for type Nine: Of impermanence, separation and loss of connection
To compensate for their Unconscious Fear an Unconscious Desire arises…..
Unconscious Desire for type Nine: To have peace of mind and be whole

Limiting Subconscious Beliefs for type Nine:
• The world won’t value my efforts.
• My presence/participation in the world is unimportant.
• Having my own agenda disrupts harmony with others.
• Getting angry disconnects and isolates me from people.
• If I assert myself I will destroy my relationships.
• To be loved I must forget myself.
Core Coping Strategies for Nines: (where Nines focus their attention because of their subconscious
beliefs)
• Going along with others’ agendas
• Seeing everyone else’s point of view
• Maintaining comfortable, predictable routines
• Retreating to the safety of their imagination under stress
• Resisting over-influence from the environment
• Pleasing, harmonizing and accommodating to avoid conflict
• Containing their own energy and anger
• Minimizing hopes and expectations (that way they can’t be disappointed)
• Being passive-aggressive rather than directly confronting
• Being undemanding
• Dissociating from threatening events.

Here’s a brief profile of some healthy, very healthy, average, unhealthy and destructive type

Nine traits.

Healthy Nines are calm, receptive, adaptable, compassionate, patient and nonjudgmental. They
accept others as they are and are able to create peace and harmony wherever they go. Healthy Nines
are genuinely easygoing and good-natured. People are able to relax around healthy Nines because
healthy Nines are relaxed. They are also optimistic, unpretentious and unself-conscious. There is an
innocence and simplicity about healthy Nines that is so endearing. They are emotionally stable and
trusting of themselves and others. Their openness to life and ability to go with the flow allows them to
experience a deep sense of inner peace and serenity.

 

Healthy Nines are excellent, uncritical listeners
and great at understanding differences in viewpoints between other people. In fact, they are often
called “the mediator” because they are so good at unbiasedly seeing different points of view. Healthy
Nines have an innate gift for comforting and reassuring others. They make for steady, supportive
friends who are always willing to lend a helping hand when asked. They constantly look for elements
of commonality that can bring people together. They exert a subtle healing and stabilizing influence on
others during difficult times.
Healthy Nines are not self-centered but they have a healthy sense of self and are able to set and
accomplish goals as well as prioritize their time. Healthy Nines are usually serene and peaceful but can
be powerful, dynamic and even assertive if the situation calls for it. Healthy Nines are highly
imaginative, creative and good communicators. They often make excellent mediators, negotiators,
counselors, storytellers, arbitrators and diplomats. Healthy Nines often inspire others with their quiet
strength, equanimity and genuine contentment with their life.

Very healthy Nines

like the 14th Dalai Lama*, are fully alive, vital and awake to themselves and
others in each moment anew. They are independent yet interdependent, indomitable yet yielding,
inwardly strong yet resilient. They are self-possessed, alert, exuberant and joyful. With their natural
gifts and talents the universe tends to move them in the direction of bringing people together, working
for peace and healing the world. Being fully present to themselves, others and the world around them,
very healthy Nines are able to create mutually satisfying relationships with everyone.

  • My speculation based on his life and my experience with the Enneagram
    Average Nines tend to be out of touch with their own needs and priorities. They see themselves as
    modest people who prefer to stay in the background and go along with the wishes of others. Being
    inconspicuous and unassuming allows average Nines to minimize their expectations of others (and
    themselves) so they will not be frustrated or disappointed when someone lets them down. By being
    inconspicuous and blending into the background they are also less likely to be intruded upon. These
    are subconscious defenses to help them achieve their Unconscious Desire – to keep their peace of
    mind. Unfortunately, being self-effacing, accommodating and agreeable has its downside. Sometimes
    Nines are overlooked, or worse, taken advantage of.

 

Average Nines don’t like that but it’s hard for
them to stand up for themselves because that might cause a conflict and then they’ll lose their peace
of mind! So, average Nines tend to just go along with requests made of them because they like the
feeling of being connected with others and because they don’t like conflict. And it’s easier to just go
along with others; less energy expenditure. Inwardly though they can remain stubbornly resistant if it
was something they didn’t really want to do but just agreed to do out of habit. Then they can become
passive-aggressive and silently defiant (like saying they will do something and then just not doing it or
doing it annoyingly slowly or just “forgetting” to do it). In short, average Nines try to avoid conflict as
much as possible because it causes them a great deal of anxiety (and loss of peace of mind). Average
Nines like predictability and don’t like too much change. They highly value a harmonious and
comfortable life with fairly regular routines and soothing habits.
Some average Nines are extremely hard working and/or physically active but they are spiritually lazy
about living in alignment with their own highest values and priorities. Average Nines are famous for
being indecisive, undisciplined and for procrastinating. That’s because they don’t really know what
they want and what’s most important to do first! They can fritter the day away doing mindless
busywork or familiar routines (like watching TV, playing on the computer, playing video games, eating,
daydreaming, etc.) or tasks that are unimportant.

In relationships it is easy for Nines to idealize their partner because they see the best in him/her and
like feeling merged. One of the reasons average Nines are so calm is because they are out of touch
with their own lively, dynamic, instinctive energy. Thus, average Nines are often attracted to energetic
people and, since they are out of touch with their own needs, they can live vicariously through their
partner’s desires and priorities rather than their own. It’s as if they go on “automatic pilot” to
themselves. Curiously, average Nines like the feeling of a deep connection with their partner but they
will resist if there is any kind of pressure put on them to change, conform, shape up, be more….. or be
any other way than they are.

 

Other ways average Nines try to stay comfortable and maintain their
peace of mind are by: being passive; tuning others out; spacing out and daydreaming; being oblivious
to what’s going on around them; withdrawing from conflicts; and sweeping problems under the rug
(not dealing with them and hoping they will go away on there own). Average Nines want life to be
smooth and easy but their peace of mind is really nothing more than an avoidance of problems and
anything upsetting. If average Nines aren’t careful they can find that problems have accumulated out
of control and then they could deteriorate into the unhealthy category.
Unhealthy Nines neglect their mounting problems and become extremely irresponsible, repressed,
apathetic, listless and ineffectual. They defend their story that everything is okay but they know very
well it is not. They placate others to get them off their back (and keep their peace of mind) but there
is a lot of suppressed anger brewing just below the surface of their calm. Occasionally they do erupt
into short bursts of temper or even fits of rage. They are resigned, spiritually dead inside and drearily
go through life feeling as though there is nothing they can do about their situation. They fantasize
about someone magically rescuing them from all their problems.

Destructive Nines try to block out of their awareness anything that might affect them. They are
extremely fearful and anxious about all the neglected problems in their life and feel completely
incapable of facing them let alone handling them. They are so emotionally and physically drained from
the denial of their problems that they are totally neglectful of themselves and others.

They can barely deal with reality at all. Well-intentioned people who try to help the destructive Nine are met with
hostility and perceived as a threat to the Nine’s illusion that everything will work itself out. At worst,
they become severely depressed, dissociating themselves from any kind of conflict and unable to
function. They can become completely shutdown and suicidal.

 

 

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